Couples Golf: Enjoy It With Knowing This 1 Sentence

I have been very fortunate to be around a lot of couples golf in my time. No matter if it is the weekend 9 and dine also known as a cheat and eat, it never fails to be interesting.

This couples golf phenomenon trickles over onto the lesson tee as well.

You know how the “typical” story goes… Husband plays golf… Wants wife to play golf… Wife ends up on the practice tee with the lesson package her husband bought her for her birthday.

Now.. Buying the golf lesson package as a birthday or holiday gift is an entirely different post… but… I digress.

So when it comes to couples golf… Ladies, tell me if I am lying. Do not all husbands think they are an expert in golf instruction?

Couples Golf TipsI have given literally thousands of golf lessons to women over the years and after getting to know them I usually start asking around about what type of help they may get once they leave my practice tee from their other half.

For many ladies that take golf instruction from me, I share a version of this discussion with them very early in our teacher-student relationship.

I tell them that they can forget everything that their husband has ever told them about golf instruction.

Amazingly, I can see the tension roll out of their shoulders right away and their posture changes to a much more relaxed state.

Let me give you a few of the “golf tips” or “golf lessons” you will hear from your husband during your couples golf experience and what to tell him to make him happy and let you practice and play golf!

First of all let me defend my brothers here that play couples golf. Keep in mind that most of them only want to help. Although at times it may seem like it, your spouse’s intention is not to be able to use the phrase “golf ruined my marriage.”

Couples Golf: Golf Tips From Your Husband

Keep Your Head Down

During your couples golf outing, your hubby or boyfriend will say things like “keep your head down.”

Between you and I, this is an antiquated way to look at the golf swing, and honestly is just ridiculous!

Golf is an athletic motion that requires your head to move in order to maximize results. Every time I hear an amateur say “keep your head down,”

I picture someone in a golf stance with a player with their chin on their chest and with no prayer of hitting a good golf shot.

This picture does not make me think that the golfer is very comfortable or ready to make an athletic motion.

Annika Sorenstam and David Duval have shown the golfing public for years that you can play great golf and do not need to “keep your head down” as both of these players had their head released towards the target at impact and became the #1 player on the LPGA Tour and PGA Tour, respectfully.

In short, keeping your head down will limit the amount of rotation that you will be able to create on the backswing as well as the forward swing.

This will more than likely lead to a loss of distance and possibly even injury, depending on how hard you are trying to swing the golf club.

Keep Your Left Arm Straight

While playing couples golf with your husband or partner, they will give give you golf tips like “keep your left arm straight.” Keep in mind, you already have your head down with your chin on your chest as you set up to the golf ball. AND… We are now adding a stiff straight left arm.

Wow! There is no way they look comfortable or athletic. Giving your hubby a little credit where credit is due, your husband is kinda right (but we will not tell him that haha). Let me tell you why.

The golf swing is no place for tension to reside. Typically, the way most players then try to achieve the goal is to use a lot tension to make it happen.

When you use tension in your shoulders, forearms, and wrists to make this happen, your muscles contract or shorten. This shortens the distance between your shoulder and the clubhead and in turn raises the bottom of your swing arc.

With a swing arc that is too high, you now must find a new path back down to the golf ball. Although your brain is a magnificent computer, It is not good enough to consistently make that correction.

Back swing position

Left Arm Extended vs, Straight

During the golf swing, your left arm should remain extended not straight. Many people think that this is a play on words however, it is two different things.

Take a swing and stop when your left arm is parallel to the ground on the backswing. Now… Put a “death grip” on the golf club. This is your husband’s “straight left arm” and not an extended left arm.

Now start over and again stop when your left arm is parallel to the ground and actually feel the weight of the club. Now you are extended and more importantly relaxed.

So as a couple, we have gotten to the point that the husband wants to be playing with his wife and he has offered a few suggestions. What happens if the golf tips just keep coming and never seem to stop?

Couples Golf: How To Handle Golf Advice From Your Husband

Believe it or not, over the years, I have dealt with this, personally. Many club members with good intentions have approached me to help me with my golf swing.

Of course, very few that offered advice were “good” players. I always took the attitude that in their mind they were only trying to help. I am sure some of them did it to feel better about themselves.

Your husband wants to give you all of this great golf tips, right? How can you make him happy but yet be able to not feel hassled the rest of the practice session or round of golf?

You can do this with one very simple sentence.

After he gives you unsolicited advice, simply reply “Thank you. That is exactly what I have been working on.”

It makes him feel important and typically ends or at least slows down his input. This simple sentence has worked for me numerous times and can work for you too!


Hopefully, these few words will allow both of you to enjoy more couples golf in the future.

Maybe… you can enjoy playing in some couples golf tournaments or other couples golf events together. I look forward to seeing you at a local nine and dine sooner than later.


What Other Golfers Are Saying...

Joseph Jusko
Joseph Jusko
December 10, 2021.
Before taking lessons from Brad I had a tough time breaking 100 even though I was a 15 handicap two years earlier. I was so frustrated with my game that I almost gave up golf altogether. After just four lessons (and lots of practice) I am striking the ball better than in my entire life!! His calm, measured approach was a perfect match to my personality. There was no magic formula but rather a return to the fundamentals of a solid golf swing which I am building day by day. Golf is fun again! I look forward to continuing my lessons with Brad and becoming the golfer I always dreamed of being.
Michael Gonzales
Michael Gonzales
December 1, 2021.
I have been playing golf for a long time and decided to take a few lessons with Brad. I had not been hitting the ball that well and after just the first lesson with Brad I saw improvement. I played a few days following the first lesson and hit my drives better than I had been for several years. Brad has a way of fine tuning simple things that bring improvement. He is very good at making the adjustments simple and with practice, repeatable. Looking forward to several mor sessions with Brad. Thanks Brad!!!!
Robert Johnson Jr
Robert Johnson Jr
November 27, 2021.
I started taking lessons from Brad back in April. My game was so so. Middle 80s most of the time. After 3 lessons and a lot of time practicing my game is now 78-80. He showed me how to improve my golf swing with confidence!! I would highly recommend Brad for future reference!! Thank you Brad!! Bob "bobbyj" Johnson
Juliana Lima
Juliana Lima
November 22, 2021.
My first experience with Brad was when I signed up for his golf lessons offered through the Suncoast Technical College. I was impressed with his knowledge and excellent teaching skills. After finishing my group lessons I was able to start playing. He helped immensely. I then attended few of his clinics and signed up for private lessons. What a huge difference it made! He helped with some adjustments that improved my overall distance. The biggest difference was the improvement I saw with my drive. I had better distance and accuracy which in turn helped me with my confidence. If you are a beginner or an experienced golfer, I highly recommend Brad.
Barbara Beam
Barbara Beam
November 14, 2021.
I recently had a lesson with Brad and it was time well spent. It was also obvious that he not only knows a lot about golf, he knows just as much about teaching golf. That to me, is of paramount importance if I'm the student! He gave me different ways to practice the skills we worked on and didn't overwhelm me with too many things to remember. Brad is also a really nice guy. I had never met him and was a bit nervous at first. He was kind, encouraging, and quickly made me feel more comfortable. I highly recommend him and won't be taking lessons from anyone else.
Bluewater Gear
Bluewater Gear
November 9, 2021.
I have seen Brad only a few times thus far, and already, he has helped me cut a ton of strokes from my golf game. And just last week, I shot my best round to date. I highly recommend seeing Brad if you wish to improve your golf game.
Justin Phillips
Justin Phillips
November 6, 2021.
If you want to play better golf, go see Brad! Before taking lessons from him, I truly did not understand my swing and specifically what to do when it was off. Last week, I started a round well enough but and at the ninth and tenth hole, I lost my swing. Instead of getting frustrated, I was able to refocus on Brad's had been teaching me and turned my round around and finished strong. Even the guys I was playing with noticed the difference. I have seen great improvement and more enjoyment in my game thanks to Brad. He is a great teacher and coach!
Erik Smith
Erik Smith
November 5, 2021.
I attended Brad’s putting clinic and thoroughly enjoyed it! He was very detailed and concise with his directions and made it easy to understand the drills we were working on. Each drill tested different aspects of the putting stroke that has helped me shave strokes off my game! Brad was great to be around and extremely helpful!
Dan Woldhuis
Dan Woldhuis
October 25, 2021.
Brad is an excellent golf instructor, he helped me understand the basic concepts of the golf swing. Brad gave me drills that I can go back to when my old habits start creeping back into my golf swing. Easy to talk to and made practice enjoyable
Alan Funk
Alan Funk
October 15, 2021.
Brad offered very constructive and useful suggestions in a really concise, simple manner. He was helpful and on point with what I needed to do to hit my driver better.

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